The Good and the bad

I find that aside from all that goes on in a person's life there is one thing that usually always remains that same and that is their relationships. Be it friendly, comic, romantic, obscure, straight, gay, business or anything in between. We as people have to do what we have to do to maintain it. To take care of it. To nurture it and watch it grow.

Any good farmer will tell you it takes a lot to turn a seed into a thriving fruit producing plant. So is true in a relationship. I once planted a small garden in a less than easy spot in my yard to grow things. I had the best intentions but in time, and because I was doing other things. The garden started to become over run with weeds, vines, and plants that I did not want there and from time to time I would go out and pull the junk plants out and water my garden etc... but as time passed I got bored with it. It seemed like a whole lot of work with little results. 

The same is true for relationships. if we don't water them, take care of them and pull out all of the things that hinder it's growth it soon will become over run with all sorts of things and for lack of a better word or wording it gets boring. 

So what do we do about that? What fixes that problem?

A relationship is a two way street. It takes work from both to make it work. You have to be open to change. Are you? We all would like to think that we are changing and changed people from one relationship to the next but in all honesty people drag a lot of baggage with them from one relationship to the next. I call that baggage the "weeds". Those weeds will certainly start to grow around the seed of your new relationship if you don't get rid of them and in time the weeds will take over leaving that new relationship gasping for air and trying to survive but wanting to give up all at the same time.

I understand that at times it can be hard to start new and fresh but the reality is this, You can not enter a new relationship with a completely different person while bringing the same baggage and expecting different results. It's really not that hard people and if you are not willing to let go of that past relationship baggage and learn new things this new relationship will certainly end up as all the others.

Till next time my friends,

~ Sleeping Bear - (With eye's wide open)